Self-inflicted sexual domestic violence: a person who loves being abused sexually to derive sexual satisfaction

 Self-Inflicted Sexual Abuse: People That Love Being Abused

This is a psychological behavior whereby the abused love the pains, insults, mental abuses, and beating being melted out on them either by their sexual partner or by themselves. It is a medical or psychological condition whereby the affected person feels a deep connection with violence especially when they are violated by other people.

They behave so much like a narcissist especially when they want their sexual partners who do not share the same ideology on endangering their lives just to derive passion.

The abused person consents to being battered and put through various physical, emotional, and psychological agony for the aim of deriving sexual satisfaction.

Behavioral Attributes of a Self-Inflicted Sexual Abuse Lover

• They are usually very controlling

• They enjoy painful sexual activities such as; intense flogging that might cause bleeding, using of sharp objects to pierce their body

• They encourage their sexual partners to rape them, that is because they enjoy the feeling

• They like it when their partners uses abusive words and scream at them

• They believe that a partner who does not inflict pain on them does not value or love them.

Reasons for their unusual Psychological Disorder

• They could be suffering from a long time unattended emotional trauma due to the cause of sexual violation or rape from childhood. They become so linked to the memory of being violently raped by their rapist especially when they were so young and inexperienced. They subconsciously begin to view violent sex as the best enjoyable way of having sex because after the incidence of rape they were not given the proper medical and psychological guidance that would have aided their recuperation from the incidence.

• It could also be a result of curiosity, from watching or seeing similar scenes from family members or friends.

• It could be a result of their previous abusive relationship. They could have been emotionally damaged by their ex-partners who were abusers and abused them on daily basis, because of the incessant abuse they got used to violence in a relationship with time they started to think and believe that it is normal to be constantly abused. These sets of people are still living in the shadows of their past abusive relationships and the horrible effect of staying with an abusive partner who has manipulated them and made them believe that abusing them is a way of showing them care and love.

• They could be suffering from low-self esteem and so many insecurities. They see violence as a means of saving themselves.

What are the best ways to provide these sets of people with the right help?

• Take them to the hospital for medical treatment

• Help them understand that true love is not violence

• Provide them with care and love

Things to avoid doing when your partner shows similar symptoms

• Do not agree to their request for you as their partners to abuse them even when they are fully permitting you to abuse them. Abusing them even with their permission makes you guilty of domestic abuse even if it was done with their permission.

• Do not judge them or make them feel terrible about themselves because that can lead them into a more critical stage and can also make them violent.

A person who loves being violated or inflicting pain on themselves by themselves can also violate and abuse their partners and other people

They can become abusive partners when:

• They are not offered medical attention in time

• They can also become abusive to their partners because they no longer see abuse or pain as something that harms them.

• They can have an episode when they do not feel the attention they want from their partners especially the feeling of abandonment which is something most of them dread so much.